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[0:09] Welcome to Berlin Jae. You're here.
[0:11] Thank you, thank you. It it feels good to be here, it feels great.
[0:16] So I picked you up at the airport exactly one week ago and meant to grab a little podcast episode or like a life reportage, audio report at the airport.
But then I was running late and it didn't work out. I just remember you being so full of energy and happy and uh yeah, just happy, I guess.
[0:41] Yep, I was on a high, I was riding on a big high, I mean this is like, you know those things in life that you have told yourself that you want to accomplish,
and they always seem so impossible and then you actually accomplish it, I mean just the act of accomplishing long term goal,
is I think gives you so much dopamine and serotonin, honestly stuff that drugs can't even give you, you know, so when you met me, I was riding on the high.
[1:16] Yeah, So one week in How do You feel?
[1:21] I feel good, I feel settled a little bit,
I feel happy, I feel satisfied in a way, of course there are still things that I want to do, but for the longest time,
I've been trying to find a city that I can just call my home and I can growth and I finally feel like that that challenge, that obstacle for myself is finally done,
so I can now start to figure out how to actually live here and figure out how to make a life here,
and that is such a relief because every place that I've lived before, I always had this back in my mind that I won't be here long, you know, I won't be here for more than like a year or so, but being in Berlin I'm like, oh yeah, I'm going to at least be here for four years at least.
So it's just, it's a breath of fresh air, it's very refreshing.
The Trip And The New Apartment
[2:15] So we're going to talk a little bit about all the things you've already done and accomplished in your first week here.
But I want to hear in a little bit more detail kind of about your trip and your first days here.
So basically, I guess the trip, I mean you just jumped into an airplane and packed your suitcases and went here.
Was there anything that you think is important to mention or interesting to anyone else who is like thinking of, you know, coming to Berlin not as a tourist, but moving to Berlin in terms of the actual trip.
Is there anything that you had to prepare or that was important to know about?
[2:57] To be honest and I can only speak from my personal experience. So um I will only speak from my own personal experience, but it was much easier than I thought it was going to be.
Um I showed Manuel um a letter that I write to my current self from my future self.
[3:16] Is there something you do like all the time? Is this like a regular thing?
[3:19] It is a regular thing. I'm trying to make it more of a regular thing. So I had a message from my future self saying that this move was so easy, it was really great.
I had no issues, everything worked out perfectly and honestly like it couldn't have worked out any better.
All of my flights were on time. Oh well there was 11 little thing um,
I noticed so I was having a layover in London and it was supposed to go from London to Berlin and it was originally scheduled for 11 a.m. In the morning.
However it's sunday.
I know saturday I checked my flight and that flight was not showing up anymore and I got so worried I was like oh my God, oh my God, oh my God, where is this flight? What happened, what happened then? I read that it got canceled and I'm like oh crap damn.
[4:14] Um So thankfully I was able to reach out to like the airlines that they were able to give me a new flight,
but my advice would just be check your emails, check your because I did not, they said that on Wednesday technically and I didn't check in until saturday and thankfully it was only because like I was trying to tell somebody what time I was flying in,
I was so I can check out a flight a flat here.
Um so yeah, that would be my only advice would be to check your emails.
Um also like if you're going to bring a lot of stuff, prepared to pay an extra $100 for a suitcase because I did that um or €100 whatever currency you're using.
Um Mhm, Just 100 flat.
[4:55] Just 100 flat, whatever currency Yes, that's how much it costs.
[4:59] Um but yeah, I would just say you know, hmm,
trust yourself, trust the process and don't worry too much like this is supposed to be an exciting adventure for yourself and yeah, they're gonna be obstacles but the more you worry,
the more un enjoyable these first impressions are going to be and you want to at least start your adventure on a good note.
So I did a lot, a lot, a lot of intentional positivity, attentional um intentional mindset, practicing like generally repeating affirmations and just getting myself into a good mood.
And I think that contributed a lot to, you know, me having an easy move here so I can't give like specific, like actionable steps.
But all I can say is just keep a positive mindset and people may argue that you can always have a positive mindset, I disagree.
Um that's the one thing in life that you can control and if you're doing this for yourself, you deserve to be happy and excited about this adventure.
So treat yourself you know, to excitement. You know, treat yourself to the rush and the thrill a new adventure and also know that.
[6:14] While this is something that you're trying to accomplish is not going to be easy, and I'm not saying that you're not going to have obstacles and problems because when we will get to this a little bit later on that episode, but I've already run into like some obstacles and problems.
So, you know, it's not about thinking that everything's going to be perfect, but at least, you know, in the beginning, try to at least have the most optimistic mindset that you can treat yourself Yes.
[6:36] Treat yourself is what I got from that, and so then you got here and you somehow,
managed to have a room ready to move into the day you arrived here impressive.
[6:50] Yes um Manuel picked me up from the airport, we went to his place. Also, thank you Manuel for honestly being a great welcoming host.
Made everything so much more comfortable and smooth. I have to contribute that to you.
Truly, truly, truly appreciate that. Very grateful for um your help. Honestly Jonathan I highly recommend.
But yeah, I how I was actually lucky enough to have two options of places to live but there was one place that I was really preferring um the guy that I'm subleasing from right now, he had reached out to me maybe like,
the middle of last weekend um offering his place, it was fully furnished already, like had a bed, a couch, a tv balcony table, all the type of stuff, my own bathroom,
and I was just so excited to be here and I was like you know what, it's six or 18 o'clock why not just reach out to them and see if I can go see the place.
So I literally dropped off myself at Marwan's flat and I just traveled over to his place um like the place, I gave him my money through.
Paypal got the key and I was like yep, got it, that was like maybe in the first two hours of getting here.
[8:08] So looking back, I remember you started looking for places like months ago. What do you think is the right time to start looking for a room or a place to move to before coming to Berlin.
[8:19] Um I don't know, there's a specific time, I mean as the sooner the better, but then like I'll give you my pros and cons of doing it really early.
The pros and pros are doing it early as you get into the habit of looking for a place,
you get into like, like you start to figure out, you know, like the certain websites, certain like things that you're looking for, the, the certain ways that, you know, like communication goes,
um and that's a super cool thing, but the kind of, that is a lot of places like that, I've always checked out there looking for people to come in like a week or two weeks, like around that duration.
Um and they also prefer you to be there in person. So that was kind of like um not helpful because you know, I wasn't there.
Um and then on the other end of things, if you wait till last minute um to start searching you can find a place, but then you might not have as many options, but once again, especially when you're moving here,
it is somewhat, you have to just kind of compromise and just be grateful for the opportunity that you have because you might not have a lot of them.
Um but my goal is to throw everything at the wall and just see what sticks.
So if you can do that as early as possible, do that as early as possible if you maybe are in a week or two before still try to throw as much as you can now keep in mind that you don't want to.
[9:45] Um burn yourself out.
You don't want to overwhelm yourself, but develop a habit that works for you.
Um I personally use facebook groups to find all of my housing when I was living in the UK when I was living in Austin and when I was living in Berlin every place that I found has been through facebook,
and the reason why I like facebook groups, not facebook as a company or whatnot, but facebook groups is because I'm talking to actual people and it's easier for me to confirm if they are, you know, human or whatnot.
And generally a lot more people speak english that way too.
Um, and it was just, it was easier for me to communicate with people that way.
And especially since I'm moving here, um,
I'm dealing with more subleasing type of things, so I'm not having to,
deal specifically with no showing proof of income, having a shoe for having all this paperwork that I just won't have in my first few days of being here, you know, so I highly recommend, you know, doing it as early as possible,
or just reaching out and having some sort of like structure, just continuously checking, but just don't overwork yourself and also just have faith, you know, because the place that I got the place, I'm living it right now.
He reached out to me, I didn't reach out to him.
So, you know, there's just a thing of just, you know, staying optimistic and trusting that, you know, all work out the way that it works out.
[11:12] So we didn't spend that much time together this first week. But I remember specifically when you were at my place, you were like, huh?
You have a door to your kitchen that you can close. That's so weird.
And I'm sure there's many, many things that you're noticing that are just different from, you know, U. S. Culture.
And I'm just curious what some things you noticed. Some first impressions, some first little culture sharks maybe kind of. What are the things that surprised you?
[11:46] Yeah, every room has a door here. The living room has a door, the kitchen has a door.
[11:49] Yes, we like privacy. We'd like to shut our doors.
[11:52] Yes. Y'all do. We have very like, like the only that has doors like in my apartments, back at home where like,
just your personal bedroom in your bathroom, but like the kitchen, the living room and they were always open no matter where I went.
That was weird. The way the doors open here are different too.
Like doors sometimes they pull some of the doors they pull towards you are most doors in America, they pull away from you. So you push the doors.
[12:23] Wait, Doesn't that depend on what side of the door you're on?
[12:27] No, like, like, so for example, like the door to my apartment, I push it like towards me, which is really weird.
Um I noticed that like in some places like, like, like I'm confused over which to put way I open the door um and that's just like a little small thing.
Um You guys have much better like, y'all are more conscious about your recycling like most times in America and once again I'm generalizing.
[12:54] So I'm only talking about my experiences in America, but like we only have a recycling bin and a trash bin.
There is a recycling for glass. Been recycling for cardboard and paper. Business recycling for plastic bin here and there's a trash bin.
[13:07] Okay let's do a little mini topic here because we received an email from Susan. Hi Susan and she wrote as a topic suggestion recycling what goes in each bin, what can be recycled, how to organize bins in your house.
Where do milk cartons go? What kind of plastic can go in the yellow bin, plastic toys, food packaging.
What do I do with old electronics?
So lots of questions. Just kind of a mini overview.
Most households have either at least three or four different bins and she says, so basically there's general garbage which I guess should come last because that's kind of like everything else.
Then there's paper where you put paper and it's for recycling paper and cardboard.
[13:53] And then there's plastic which is basically any type of single use plastic and also milk and juice cartons kind of these tetra paks.
Um And yeah, there's a few different like kind of logos or symbols that help with that, but also not really.
Um And then I also have organic waste.
So basically food waste and then there's kind of the customer. So rest means the rest, right? So everything else goes there and that stuff, I think it's just burned and the rest gets recycled.
And old electronics, this is a good point.
Um So if you buy basically any place that sells electronics.
[14:42] Also has to take back old electronics of the general type and size so it doesn't matter if they are selling that exact brand or that exact thing.
Like if you're buying a computer monitor for example, that place should also take back your old printer, for example, as a as an example.
Um So that goes for any store, whether it's an electronic store or supermarket or anything, and in terms of,
paper and plastic, I think the big thing is that um you shouldn't put anything in there that's mixed.
So if there's things that are like glued together and there are different materials that doesn't go in there because that can be recycled and yeah, there's a few more rules that I'm not too certain about, but that's kind of the general just,
and yeah, I think Germans are quite proud of the fact of this kind of hole,
Also, glass goes into containers on the street um with different, sorted by different colors, so that gets recycled.
But unfortunately at least from what I've heard a lot of stuff ends up not being recycled either because it's done wrong or it gets mixed at some point.
So it's like we're kind of proud of the whole recycling chain, but at the end of the day it's the results are not perfect.
[16:05] Hey, but at least it's better than nothing, you know, like at least the systems out there and there's definitely a learning curve to it all.
Like I'm learning to know what to separate or whatnot, but I think it's something that like at least, you know, Germany is doing that and it's better than just doing everything into one bin and just calling it a day, you know,
like there's at least attempt or actions at it.
What do you do with the envelope? I'm looking at an envelope right now and I'm like, that's technically paper and plastic.
[16:35] See that's a that's a great question and it's it's a great example for my own uh ignorance.
I'm Googling preformed plastic. Let's see what it says.
Um Yeah, so they can go up. So yeah, so that's not a problem.
I guess stuff like that because it's ah so what happens is when it goes into the recycling center, it all goes goes into water and the water is kind of separating,
and then the paper basically goes down and the plastic stays on top and that's how they separate that.
So yeah, you can put those in the paper, but if it's for example, like a yogurt yogurt ah box thing that that it has like plastic and paper glued together.
And that would be different, I think so if in doubt just google it.
[17:36] Gotcha interesting, so much to learn. Okay.
[17:40] There's another thing that was really interesting for me when you go to a restaurant, there are three types of water you can get, you can get tap, steel and sparkling.
I've never had so many options for water in my life.
[17:56] See this was a whole thing on my other podcast in the category of Das neves,
because it really, some, some restaurants will refuse to give you tap water because the thing in Germany is that restaurants make most of their money or at least a lot of their money.
[18:15] By selling drinks and they don't want to give you free tap water and I, that's one of the biggest things that I love about the U. S.
Where you just get a giant jug of tap water, you don't even have to ask for it, it's just there and like I am a thirsty person, I love drinking water and so it's great.
Yeah, in Germany, basically the default actually is that you order a drink and even if the drink that you want is water, you kind of order it.
And so if you say, hey, I would like a water please, they will ask you sparkling or non smart, sparkling sparkling obviously comes in a bottle and is paid, but even if you say no, no, no gas, like not sparkling,
it'll be like a super expensive little bottle with,
water that was, that came on a truck and if you want tap water,
that is free, you need to specifically specify or ask can I have some tap water And depending on the restaurant, they all either just do it or they'll do it begrudgingly and they will look at you or something that you,
see more and more, even on menus, they'll say, hey, if you want tap water, um you can only have it if you also order a drink or we will charge you,
a euro or whatever and it's a little ridiculous, but I kind of prefer.
[19:39] It's a little more honest, you know, I prefer paying a euro for tap water than for them to give me an angry look, you know, I don't look at me like don't look at me like that.
Like if, if you really depend that much on the, on the money from, from the drinks then then charge the euro, that's fine.
[19:53] A Water.
[19:57] And honestly I kind of get it too because like meals in Berlin are really cheap, you know, and if you're having lunch for €7 and then you're having tap water, it's like, yeah, the restaurant isn't making a lot of money of that off of that and if you,
otherwise pay another three or €4 for a drink, you know, I got it.
So I've given up on the tap water fight. I just ordered my favorite drink, which is uphill trawler, which I heard is also another thing that surprised you.
[20:27] Yes, um just to end on that water thing, I end up paying €5 for still water and I was very, very confused. I was like, what is this?
[20:36] Oh no, it gave you like a big bottle of Avian or something like.
[20:38] I'm like, yeah, yeah, and it was just no, it wasn't like a little wine glass, I'm like, it wasn't even that special.
They tried to put like a little grapefruit little slice in there and I was like, that's what I paid for. I was like, if I had known that we just got on top of that top and still was like the same exact thing, apparently not Germany, so yeah.
Um Yes, awful. I'm still learning how to pronounce words, but the sparkling apple juice is what I wanted to call it is a hit. That was a great, great, great um discovery that Manuel shared with me.
[21:12] Yeah, but it's not sparkling, apple juice, it's apple juice mixed with sparkling water.
[21:14] Um Yes.
[21:20] And it's kind of important to specify this because I think if you just made apple juice sparkling, it wouldn't be as refreshing because it would just be so sweet, right?
[21:28] That's true.
[21:28] Kind of the trick, the hit about it, the trick about it is that it's That it's 50 50 and sparkling.
[21:36] It is a great refreshing drink and so was the club mate.
Um That one is a new favorite of mine as well.
[21:47] Yeah, that's a very Berlin thing, it's now completely mainstream.
I remember like 15 years ago, it was a very kind of Nerd,
thing to drink, like all the computer nerds were drinking club matter because it has a lot of caffeine um and it's very sweet, it's kind of, it's kind of like, I think it has about as much sugar as a coca cola does,
and as much caffeine or more, but it doesn't taste as sweet, I think.
Um And so yeah, a lot of people like it.
[22:15] Yeah, they're dangerous. I'm gonna have to not get these anymore because they are very sweet and sugary.
[22:20] We should, yeah.
[22:22] And I try not to drink too much sugar, but I've treated myself, I've been in tourist mode um last week, that was my tourist mode. So I was like, it's okay.
[22:32] Definitely maris anything else that's.
[22:36] Um okay. The other thing everyone like told me, oh yeah, you know everyone, like, I'm like, I'm excited to practice my german here.
[22:46] Oh well, just know that you probably will be able to practice that much because everyone here speaks english. That is a lie.
That is a lie. A straight up lie conversationally.
Yes, but not when it comes to service, you know, getting something done, going to a store, you know, trying to ask people questions.
Most of the people that have come in contact with that I need actual help from only speak german and I've been like, oh, this is not as easy as I thought it was going to be.
Obviously we're in Germany, so it makes sense, right? But my, my expectations were not that.
[23:30] Interesting, very interesting. Yeah, I feel like you hear both,
things, you know, people complaining or being surprised by how everybody just speaks english and even, you know, kind of the stereotype is you can't even go to a bar anymore in Berlin or to a cafe without the waiter talking to you in english.
And it's so difficult to learn german that way.
But on the other hand, I think it's yes, obviously like those things happen, but at the end of the day, as you've pointed out, we are in Germany and kind of the lingua franca or the language,
the default language is german, yes, and I guess maybe if you go to a store and you want to make a contract, you want to get a cell phone contract,
the sales person is going to want to talk in german.
[24:15] Yes, and that's happened a lot and that's getting to the next point of the struggles that I've come to face while being here already.
[24:25] Tell us about them.
[24:25] Um the show I would say, I mean like the language barrier has been, I think the biggest challenge and like I'm trying not to overwhelm myself because of course, you know like I need to learn german but I'm not going to learn it overnight,
[24:39] but like in terms of like, you know, getting a film contract, you know um setting up, you know like bank account um going to the store, you know, buying a bike or what not.
A lot of these people, their preferred language,
is german so and they can speak a little bit of english, but it's not enough for me to really understand what's going on for them to really understand myself, like I went to go get a phone plan.
[25:08] Um and I just needed a prepaid phone because I just needed a sim card right then and there,
um I wasn't trying to order one, I was trying to get a prepaid sim card right then and there,
so I went to the telecom store and they just had some like on the little rack and the it was very expensive, it was like five gigabytes for €25 but that was the biggest plan that they had,
but then I was like okay, let me go to Vodafone um and see and the guy was talking to me and I was trying to just get a prepaid sim card, like I emphasized a prepaid sim card,
And he was like trying to I think sell me like a contract for like 50 years or whatnot.
And he was speaking English, but it was still broken up English, so I couldn't really understand what he was saying.
Like I did not trust that I was getting what I needed and,
I feel that like, and maybe I'm just nervous or whatnot, but I do feel that like sometimes I might be getting taken advantage of because I don't really know what people are saying that much and I'm just trying to get, you know, the easiest thing.
So it's really difficult to have like an actual conversation where we're each understanding each other and I'm getting the best type of service that I can when you know, like that language barrier is there,
you know, and it's difficult because you know, like you're not always available when people are always available to help me out.
So like I'm doing these things, you know, solo um and then whenever, like I got, oh my gosh, my bike, oh.
[26:36] So just about that story, I agree that um obviously speaking german would have helped you in that moment,
but also, and I guess that's what this podcast is about and we'll do an episode about getting a sim card or a short episode because yeah, it's not rocket science, but it's better to like I think the better method is,
basically picking something and knowing about the options,
instead of just wandering into a telecom or Vodafone store where they're obviously going to want to sell you a contract instead of just selling you a prepaid card.
And so yeah, I think no matter if you speak german or not, they're gonna probably try to sell Upsell you or sell you something expensive there.
[27:20] Yeah, and I'm just like can you just work with me please? Not everything has to be about selling. I'm just trying to live.
And I ended up going with like a telecom, five gigabyte one because it was like, it was literally on the shelf. I did not have to talk to the guy.
And yeah, it's a little bit more expensive. But in terms of simplicity and that's one thing I would say you might like,
for example my apartment is a little bit more than the average apartment, but if you are moving to a new country or a new place, it might be worth it for the sake of simplicity and ease,
to pay a little bit more to have it a little bit easier.
Um If that makes sense.
[28:04] It doesn't make sense. Obviously it depends on whether you can afford to do it.
[28:08] Yes, it does.
[28:10] But you know, obviously I agree that you are making your life easier if you kind of yeah, you know, are able to pay a little bit more.
The sim card just will do we will do an individual episode. But so you didn't get like a two year contract, you just got a prepaid sim that you can basically ditch at any point, correct? Okay.
[28:28] Yes, which I will be, I'll be, I'm switching to a another company after this month.
Um Yeah, but yeah.
[28:34] Okay. Let's talk about it in the next one Maybe. So bike you you went and bought a bike.
[28:39] Yes, so sunday um one of my other coworkers sent me like um information of a used bikes, like salad they have going on.
Um and I was like, okay, perfect. I mean like, you know, we talked about bikes in our last episode, I'm like, this is a great time to get myself a bike.
Um I've been using, I've been walking or using the subway, which has been great, but you know, like we talked about it so much nicer to have a bike, you know, to be able to see the city.
So I go there. Um and I'm looking at all the bikes and you know, like, I was very, very confident in myself before I got there, I was like, okay, this is gonna be a breeze and I was going to be able to just like,
go riding the bikes and just see and whatnot.
And the once, like I would say like it's,
it is the culture shock of not knowing the language and still feeling out of place is still present and granted I need to give myself, time is suing me my advice in the future at the end of the episode, but it's going to take time for me to feel comfortable here.
You know, I'm going to feel uncomfortable for the time being and I did, I felt so uncomfortable there um because I did not know, like I thought I knew what like to ask you or whatnot, but,
once again, either people were just trying to sell me or people didn't speak enough english for me to actually have a conversation about the bikes that I could like get or whatnot.
[29:58] Um So when I was looking at the bikes um like I was just trying to look and just use my own like um perception and evaluation to see which bikes worked for me or whatnot.
Um And then like, I ended up seeing the bike that I I found and I sent my well a picture of it and he was like, yeah, you know, that's a good boy, that's a great frame or whatnot.
Um I ended up being able to get the price down, but it was so interesting because it was like.
[30:26] I talked to one guy, there was two guys who were selling this bike, I talked to one guy about getting the price down and then we agreed on 1 €75 but then he got busy with somebody else.
So then the other guy came around and I was like, we agreed on 1 75 he was like no.
And then I was like, well that guy said that and he was, they communicated and he was like, yes, I'm like, y'all didn't work on your communication because you're not about to up sell me again after he just said 1 75 I gotcha.
[30:58] Um and then they did not want to take card.
[31:02] So then I was a little difficult. Then they end up finally accepting card.
They could have taken card the whole entire time, but they had preferred cash and I'm like, but if you have a card then just let me use my card.
Um So like that was it was difficult trying to I think negotiate and talk about the bike or whatnot.
And like since I don't speak the language is I don't get a conversation, it's either okay by the bike and leave type of thing. It's not like, oh, you know, how long have you had this bike for? You know what's the frame like or what not?
So I got very like nervous in that setting.
Um And then like in line I was trying to get like a like a like a lock for my bike.
Um But then the one that I wanted, they only took cash, so they're like, I didn't have that much cash on me. Which is so weird because some places here prefer card. Other places here prefer cash and I don't really know how much cash I should keep on me um all the time.
Um And I don't want to keep a lot of cash on me because you know, you don't want to get robbed or whatnot, but then other places like, no, we only take cash and I'm like, what do I do. Um.
[32:07] It's true Germany. Berlin is kind of caught between two worlds because Germany is still still very much a I'm not sure if it's cash first but kind of cash necessary country like people still,
carry around cash and there are still places that only accept cash because it's cheaper for them or whatever.
But then Berlin is obviously also hip and future, like look kind of future forward or whatever.
And so there's like there are some cafes that will only accept cash and then there's some hip new cafes that will only accept credit cards,
And or cards in general, I should say zero card credit card and it's like yeah, so now you kind of just you need both, like you can't you can't just have one, you need you need to have both a little bit of both.
And I guess yeah, kind of if you're buying a bike, obviously if you're buying a bike at a bike shop they'll always um except cards at least kind of the zero card, like not the not necessarily credit cards,
um but that was more kind of flea market type of situation right?
Where it was outside and stuff and in those kinds of situations you kind of always need cash in Germany.
[33:21] Yeah, exactly. So I learned that in to some of that.
[33:26] I mean, I I enjoyed, I liked the bike that I had and it was a great one day, not even a day,
of riding my bike and then monday morning I'm writing and I it's my fault.
I I fully take blame for this, but I was distracted by a building because I was like, oh, it's a sports complex, there's different things in it and little did I know that I was slowly turning to the right and I run into a pole,
a little small little pole, I think that's like for cars not to go on the sidewalk And I end up damaging the front wheel of my bike.
And this is not like, it has not even been 24 hours yet.
Um I think has been, maybe I did. I scraped my knee.
[34:10] Did you hurt yourself?
[34:13] Um We have a little boo boo that had to go get plasters for, which that's another different thing. We say band aids in America, we don't use to wear plasters.
[34:14] Oh, boy.
[34:23] Um So that was very interesting. But then, okay, so, like, then I messaged mine, well, I'm like, hi, so I damaged my bike already.
[34:32] You sounded so down you sounded.
[34:33] I was so down I was so I won't lie, I was very upset, I just got this bike and I'm like, oh like it hasn't even been a day and I paid so much money for the bike um.
[34:45] You wrecked it.
[34:46] And I wrecked it and like once again there was this guy who tried to help me but he didn't speak english, so I didn't know what he was saying,
Um so I just kept my drag, I can't I can't roll the bike because the front wheel doesn't work, so I was just dragging my bike, it's not a light bike and I still have maybe 10 minutes to go from walking to home.
So then I end up going to one of the bike shops that Manuel suggested that I go to, then I go there and.
[35:12] It was difficult because they don't this is my thing with the whole language barrier of like the service things, they don't really speak that well of english.
So he was trying to like explain to me and all I got was he can't fix the bike and he was trying to explain to me what the problem was, but like he was speaking in german and I was like I don't speak that, I don't know what you're saying, so,
I'm sorry and then he got someone who else was doing a little bit better, but he was all he could say was we can't fix the bike.
So it was like in those situations like I don't even know what the problem was, I don't know if they can't fix the bike and I'm like crap.
I mean like I just bought this bike and they cannot fix it.
I'm like, ah I'm like like that's like literally €200 out of my pocket right there, just in the trash.
Um Then I, my mom was like, well just try try to find like another place and see what they say. So I dragged my little little bike.
I felt so just like I felt so just like lost just dragging this bike to the next place. Keep in mind I don't know where I'm going. So I'm trying to look at my phone for directions or whatnot.
And I think it's like another place and they say that they can, they might be able to fix it. They're going to order a part then it's going to cost like €150 or whatnot.
[36:32] And like I like and I all I said was okay and like they didn't take my money like that like my opponents,
until mid May, but like that was one of my other frustrations because I'm like, I can't have a conversation with this person about like one negotiating price down to what is the actual problem.
Like I don't even know what part he was telling me he's going to buy.
Um it was like something for the front wheel and I'm like, is that really going to make the thing work?
And he only looked at his like, I don't even know if that's gonna even help, so like I'm going to probably try to find some other places to go, but like that already is like one of my frustrations is like just not being able to,
get the help that I need because I don't understand the language and you know we can't communicate um that well.
Um so it's been, I will say that I have loved my time here but definitely is a little bit overwhelming in some cases, like I'm not going to lie and say that everything is perfect, nothing in life is perfect,
[37:28] I'm very grateful to be here, but already I am seeing the struggles of,
you know, being in a new country and a new time,
um not understanding the language or whatnot in all of that.
[37:41] And all of this, I swear to you is part of culture shock.
That is the experience. And yes, you go, it's a roller coaster.
You have all these emotions, you get endorphins, but you also struggle and there's going to be so many things that go wrong and that you don't understand and that's just culture shock.
[38:04] Yeah. Yeah no you're definitely right and like it's a part and I know like the things I know this is like even before I came here like I was telling my mom, I was like I'm excited to see what the culture shock is and the universe was like alright bet I got you.
I will show you culture shock um And like it's just different like,
in the moment of things because because you just you just want everything to go well and then things are going well and things don't go well and then you just get confused and then like you feel this pressure on you because it's like,
at those shops there's now a line you know and like I'm holding up the line because I don't understand what's going on.
Um and you know they're not that compassionate to me which is understandable, they have a job that they're just trying to get people in and out so.
[38:50] It's also Berlin you just need to be prepared for people not being necessarily compassionate or overly, you know, friendly, outwardly friendly, because that's just not the culture.
[39:00] Friendly. Yes. Yes that's another culture shock in America is customers first.
The whole let me speak to a manager type of thing is very real here there.
Um It's not you know I understand that you know like like like I'm not I'm not coming here wanting to feel entitled that like I deserve special treatment or what not,
but it's just like I'm all about problem solving and when I can't solve a problem that makes me a little bit overwhelmed, I'm like oh my gosh how can I do this.
But then yeah that's what you said like it's all a part of the journey is all a part of the experience and.
[39:40] I need to relax and this is my advice for myself, is things take time, it hasn't, yesterday wasn't even a week yet, you know, so like I think I need to give myself a little bit more credit,
For what I'm going through and it's like, it's the first week, obviously things are not going to go 100% smoothly in the first week, hell not even, probably the first few months, you know, I'm still gonna have some obstacles.
Um I think I was probably pushing myself a little bit too much, especially like giving us like only been seven days to get all of this stuff done in the first seven days and the great, you know, I'm excited, I just want to get established,
but like my advice to myself for now on anybody else taking here is take it slow and know that things take time and it's okay not to do everything at once.
You know, of course it might come with some obstacles, you might not be able to do everything that you want to, but like, overall it might be beneficial to, you know, say okay, I'm only going to achieve two things this week.
[40:46] And maybe not until my third month, Well I have everything that I need um because it can get at least especially knowing myself, I get overwhelmed very easily,
and I got very overwhelmed yesterday, yesterday, I always have great days, but yesterday was not my best day.
Um I'll just be very dishonest with that because I was just so like oh my God,
um and just exhausted, you know, and not to mention jetlagged and like starting work again and you know just trying to figure everything out and it was it's been a roller coaster of a week so far.
I love where I am and I think like it's fun though to have that because I mean like it makes great story times, you know, it's great for the plot um.
[41:30] Yes, and yes, and that's that's exactly the perspective you should have, even if,
you know, even if you're not telling that story on the podcast later, just kind of, you know, try to,
Taken outside perspective and just, you know, enjoy kind of the movie and enjoy the roller coaster and how boring would it be if just everything was smooth sailing, always and 100% perfectly planned and executed.
And it's it's really part of the experience, I think.
[41:59] It is, it is, and I think like, I mean coming from like coming from my time in France, I was in an international like students,
campus, you know, so they understood people who are new here and I was with other people, so it was easier for me to, you know, navigate culture shock, like I wasn't alone and then when I was in the UK,
everyone speaks english there, you know, so that made a little bit easier and then when I was in Austin obviously back home in America, so you know, it was not hard to get things here completely new, completely different,
completely just like out of my element,
and I think, but that's why I chose this place, you know, it's it's everything that I imagined, you know, everything I wanted, I'm getting and I, I think like I went to bed feeling a lot more okay with things,
because I just reminded myself, you know, like this is honestly what I asked for, this is what I want and it won't always be like this, you know, I think like that's the other important thing is I think,
just with life in general, you know, whether you're picking up a new hobby or you're starting a new job or you're going to school for the first time or last time or whatnot you.
[43:17] Mhm struggle in the beginning of everything that you do and you know, we always expect things to work out perfectly,
but there's a lot of things that you just can't imagine happening, there was no way I could imagine wrecking my bike crashing my bike the, the first day that I get it, you know,
there's no way that I could imagine all these types of things and I think there has to be an element of.
[43:40] Allowing yourself to go through the obstacles and accepting the obstacles and accepting the future challenges that come your way,
and not trying to avoid them, but just letting yourself know that whatever you go through, you'll get through, it might not be easy, but she'll still get through it.
[43:56] Um, and I think if you're able to kind of just have that mindset and have that compassion for yourself, it'll make going through those struggles a little bit easier.
And I did, like, by the end of that day, because I did, I put a lot of pressure on myself, I blame, I was starting to blame myself.
I was like, you should have been paying attention to the right the road, you should have, you know, probably gotten a better bike, you should have, it was, it was a lot of you should have could have been whatevs,
um, and that's not a great mentality to have, especially when you're new and you're already under pressure, the best approach is to, you know, be a little bit more understanding yourself.
It's like, it's okay, like, you're new here, you, you you did your best, you went out, you were, you took the initiative, you tried, you, you did what you could and, you know, this is just the result.
You know, it's not, it's not a punishment. It's not something bad that happens.
Just something that has happened and you'll get through it just like you get through anything, you know, So I think very important to, you know, understand things take time, you know, take it slow, don't try to rush yourself and also just have compassion for yourself as you're getting through things.
Because at the end of the day, all you have is yourself, you know, and you got to at least be your biggest, you know, champion your biggest fan. You have to encourage yourself the most you can.
[45:13] Um, because it can get hard and hard, does not mean impossible. It doesn't mean things are going wrong.
It just means that things are hard and that's okay, but things will get easier through time.